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Michael Donahoe posted an update: I grew up in a Christian family and was one of the kids […]

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 01:35:58 +0000

I grew up in a Christian family and was one of the kids who never got in trouble, didn’t smoke, didn’t drink, didn’t cuss. I was always in church whenever the doors were open. I was certainly relying on what I did or did not do to measure my level of spirituality.

Over the past several years, I had a groaning deep inside about modern-day…

Zoo Case posted an update in the group Dubai: Hello

Sat, 18 Oct 2025 11:40:31 +0000

Hello

Zoo Case created the group Dubai

Sat, 18 Oct 2025 11:39:56 +0000

kai marik posted an update in the group Deconstructing Alone: Hello,I am new here. I am also new to deconstructing […]

Thu, 16 Oct 2025 02:38:34 +0000

Hello,

I am new here. I am also new to deconstructing my faith. There is not a lot of places or groups in my town that will understand and maybe help me go through this transition. Around my area either your an atheist or you 100% believe. I feel like I am in the middle of it not knowing where to turn. I am hoping I can find a community…

Osa posted an update in the group New England: Hey, is this still active?

Fri, 12 Sep 2025 22:54:51 +0000

Hey, is this still active?

Brian B posted an update in the group Deconstructing Alone: Hello all, I’m new here, 51 years old. I’m just trying […]

Thu, 17 Jul 2025 04:30:27 +0000

Hello all, I’m new here, 51 years old. I’m just trying to figure out what I believe and what I know and how to handle that.

I grew up in the Baptist Church, I mean I was in there from since I was in diapers until I was probably in my 30’s. Then my attendance got a bit more sparse. Anyway, I always had struggled with my faith, and if I really…

Desert Mom posted an update in the group Deconstructing Alone: I'm new here, but I've been deconstructing my […]

Sun, 01 Dec 2024 00:01:16 +0000

I’m new here, but I’ve been deconstructing my faith (evangelical/fundamental Christian) for 2 years. Deconstruction is not a trendy thing I chose to do, but something I realized was happening – and I painfully fought it tooth and nail. At this point, I’m pretty sure there is a Higher Power, or God, or Something out there that is the creative…

Hannah posted an update: Hello! Any Vancouver BC people still active here? […]

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 17:07:24 +0000

Hello! Any Vancouver BC people still active here? Anyone know of any active groups that meet up around the topic of deconstruction or just to have community?

Katherine Sorenson posted an update in the group SF Bay Area, California: Hi everyone, just thought I’d start a group for the Bay […]

Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:22:11 +0000

Hi everyone, just thought I’d start a group for the Bay Area. I’m in the South Bay and happy to connect with any other locals delving into this.

Katherine Sorenson created the group SF Bay Area, California

Sat, 17 Aug 2024 02:19:52 +0000

Katherine Sorenson posted an update: Hi everyone, not entirely sure I’m even in the right […]

Thu, 25 Jul 2024 03:14:26 +0000

Hi everyone, not entirely sure I’m even in the right place. I was raised evangelical, left church 20 years ago, but never really deconstructed. It’s become apparent over the past year that even though I left the church and that belief system behind, it’s all still impacted my entire adult life; to this very day I’m still making decisions and…

Millie McKinnon posted an update: Hello out there!I forgot I joined this group a couple […]

Mon, 27 May 2024 00:47:27 +0000

Hello out there!

I forgot I joined this group a couple of years ago. Anybody out there near Sacramento? I am happy to chat on here but would also like to connect with people near me. The deconstruction process has been challenging but good. I thought after 4 1/2 years I would have less questions and more ideas about what I believe. Anyone else…

Lorie Johnson posted an update in the group Deconstructing Alone: I am deconstructing alone from Christianity and it's […]

Sun, 26 May 2024 18:23:39 +0000

I am deconstructing alone from Christianity and it’s much like feeling my plane exploded at 40,000 feet and I just keep falling. I’m flailing around trying to grab onto something but there’s nothing there. I just keep falling. I have had to let go of so many people and so many lifelong beliefs and traditions that I can’t find anything left…

Lorie Johnson posted an update in the group Agnostics/atheists: I am grateful to find this network! The extremely […]

Fri, 22 Dec 2023 17:04:21 +0000

I am grateful to find this network! The extremely short version is that my entire Christian world exploded when I was arrested on a DUI after hiding my abusive marriage to violent alcoholic from my church(s) for decades. The DUI saved my life because it woke me up and I’ve been alcohol free since–nearly five years, and no thanks to my…

Janet Gimenez posted an update: Hi 👋 anyone up for a coffee?

Sat, 11 Nov 2023 01:56:04 +0000

Hi 👋 anyone up for a coffee?

Andrea Smith: @celandine I just heard Phil Drysdale on one of the […]

Thu, 19 Oct 2023 04:09:03 +0000

@celandine I just heard Phil Drysdale on one of the many “deconstructing podcasts” & raced to get on here. Not as many people as i was hoping, but maybe we’re all of using different parts of the site to connect or other methods.

Just wanted to say “hi” to people who are even remotely in the same area of the US.

I was homeschooled until 3rd…

Melodie Soule posted an update in the group PA/OH/WV: Just joined. Is anyone still active? I'm in PA near Doylestown

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 11:47:50 +0000

Just joined. Is anyone still active? I’m in PA near Doylestown

Gaby G replied to the discussion Welcome newbies in the forum Deconstructing Alone

Thu, 17 Aug 2023 21:34:15 +0000

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So sorry to hear you’ve been struggling. There’s definitely plenty of people around on this network who still have some form of faith so sure you’ll find many to connect with 🙂 That sounds like a great read that I’ll have to check out! Although for me sadly my faith is gone at the moment, I feel oddly closer to jesus outside the church and…

Roy Godber replied to the discussion Welcome newbies in the forum Deconstructing Alone

Thu, 17 Aug 2023 17:05:11 +0000

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Many thanks for your welcome. I have been battling a spell of clinical depression and the network has been on the back burner but I now hope to have the opportunity to dialogue with others who have left the conservative evangelical fold but who have not completely abandoned the “faith”. The title of Malcolm Muggeridge’s last book has some…

Kristina Legkaya posted an update in the group Deconstructing Alone: Hello! I joined the deconstruction network when I was […]

Wed, 16 Aug 2023 21:11:53 +0000

Hello! I joined the deconstruction network when I was still struggling with what kind of Christian I want to be. Now I am an atheist. I took time off of deconstructing because I feel as though there’s nothing else to deconstruct, but sometimes I really miss this community! Sharing my journey online has taught me what community really is so…

Ginny Kyles posted an update in the group Psychedelic Experiences and Integration: Im only beginning to really consider this option for […]

Sat, 22 Jul 2023 22:23:54 +0000

Im only beginning to really consider this option for myself. Open to hear more.

Aaron Baker replied to the discussion Introduction :) in the forum Young & Deconstructing

Tue, 25 Apr 2023 13:58:36 +0000

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Thanks for sharing Charlie, I agree that being around younger more progressive christians really helped me open my mind while I was at Oklahoma Christian. For me the 2020 riots were a big factor and seeing other students have a pride rally near campus.

I know this response is late and you may not even see it. I hope this community will catch…

Unknown Member replied to the discussion Introduction in the forum St. Louis Deconstruction

Wed, 29 Mar 2023 13:32:33 +0000

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Hi David. I’m Lou. I just moved to the area from deep in the bible belt. I’m in my 40s. I’m working on getting a masters so I can teach. I’m a former evangelical, which makes me an exvangelical apparently. My faith journey has been a weird one, or so I thought before I found online communities of deconstructors in Reddit and now here. I’ve…

Allison K posted an update in the group Dallas/Fort Worth, Texas: Hello! I am new to this network and curious if this […]

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 04:02:42 +0000

Hello! I am new to this network and curious if this group still has any active members? I don’t have a Facebook account but from what I can see of the Facebook group, it has been inactive for at least a month. If anyone knows of any exvangelical groups that meet in person in the DFW area, I would appreciate the tip! I considered trying out…

Unknown Member replied to the discussion Introduce Yourself in the forum UK

Mon, 13 Mar 2023 09:37:13 +0000

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Thanks Linny, I feel very fortunate to have found this group 🙂

Thanks for sharing your experience, it can be so hard <3

Aww, thanks I feel less alone and very pleased to meet someone else in SE England.

Linny replied to the discussion Introduce Yourself in the forum UK

Sun, 12 Mar 2023 18:13:09 +0000

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Hi Haleema, I’m glad you found our group! I too find it hard to share with my family where I’m at, and I’ve been untangling from religion for over a decade.

I’m in the Southeast (near Gatwick) and would also like the chance to get to know more people in this area who have similar stories to share. You don’t have to do this alone!

Unknown Member replied to the discussion Introduce Yourself in the forum UK

Sun, 12 Mar 2023 06:27:56 +0000

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Hi everyone 🙂

My name is Haleema and I live in Kent.

I have grown up as a Muslim and have been deconstructing for 7 years, first the non- core rules and regulations based on scholarly opinion and most recently the core pillars of the religion and faith.

I’m taking it slowly as I still live with my family, who don’t force their beliefs on me…

Unknown Member replied to the discussion Introduce Yourself in the forum UK

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 21:50:34 +0000

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It’s good to hear of other therapists working in the area! I hope things go well as you are starting out as a counsellor.

Unknown Member replied to the discussion Introduce Yourself in the forum UK

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 21:48:45 +0000

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What interesting resources – I’ve not come across these before. Thanks for sharing them John.

Andy Murden replied to the discussion Introduce Yourself in the forum UK

Mon, 06 Mar 2023 19:40:02 +0000

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Really interesting, thank you for sharing these John.

John Thacker replied to the discussion Introduce Yourself in the forum UK

Mon, 06 Mar 2023 18:47:14 +0000

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Thanks Sarah and Andy.

I’ll just add a couple of things in case of interest to anyone:

1 You may well have come across this book, written by a counsellor. I found it…

Andy Murden replied to the discussion Introduce Yourself in the forum UK

Mon, 06 Mar 2023 11:49:28 +0000

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Hi Sarah,

Good to hear about your online therapy offer. You’re right, it can be hard to find therapists who are able to work with clients through deconstruction. I’m just starting out as a counsellor (having qualified recently) and am interested in helping people experience a faith shift. I am in touch with a few others counnsellors who also…

Unknown Member replied to the discussion Introduce Yourself in the forum UK

Sat, 04 Mar 2023 17:44:51 +0000

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Hi everyone, I’m Sarah. I grew up as the pastor’s kid in a Charismatic Evangelical church, but deconstructed my faith over my 20s. Training as a Clinical Psychologist was particularly instrumental in fast forwarding my deconstruction.

Please do let me know if this isn’t the right place to mention this, but I did want to say that I offer…

Jo Madden replied to the discussion Meetup in May in the forum Kansas City Metropolis

Sat, 25 Feb 2023 20:22:32 +0000

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Me too.

Casey Chan posted an update in the group Deconstructing Alone: 33 married with kids. I was born into a missionary family […]

Sat, 25 Feb 2023 16:08:26 +0000

33 married with kids. I was born into a missionary family in China. I wasn’t really a devout christian, but I believed in heaven and hell. A few years ago, I tried to become a good christian so I can lead my children closer to christ. Long story short, I came out an atheist. I have been trying to teach my children science and logic ever since,…

Levi Blackburn posted an update: Hey everyone, online community like this has been […]

Fri, 24 Feb 2023 03:31:42 +0000

Hey everyone, online community like this has been super helpful in my journey. I’m curious though where people have found community and connection in real life outside the neatly curated church environment?

Bryan Boleratz posted an update: Hey! Don’t just look…say hi! 😊

Sun, 12 Feb 2023 02:30:04 +0000

Hey! Don’t just look…say hi! 😊

SEAN G posted an update in the group Colorado: Hi everyone my name is Sean. I have been […]

Wed, 08 Feb 2023 15:30:12 +0000

Hi everyone my name is Sean. I have been deconstructing since 2020. I am very happy to find a central location to post my thoughts on deconstruction and am looking to connect with people specifically in Norther Colorado that are on this Journey as well.

A little bit about me: Former catholic/evangelical christian, veteran and teacher in…

Diana Mapes replied to the discussion March 23rd - World Atheist Day in the forum Agnostics/atheists

Sat, 04 Feb 2023 20:57:02 +0000

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Jehovah’s Witnesses are an evangelical cult, although they try to deny having anything in common with other Christian denominations. If you’ve never met a Jehovah’s Witness, I’m sure many are envious. In my area of the USA, most people are trying to find ways to avoid them.

Diana Mapes created the group Over 65

Sat, 04 Feb 2023 19:26:17 +0000

Andrew Buhman posted an update: Is there anyone else out there who gravitated […]

Tue, 31 Jan 2023 01:44:24 +0000

Is there anyone else out there who gravitated to spirituality or Eastern philosophy such as Taoism, Buddhism or Zen?

Seth Moore replied to the discussion Where are you located? in the forum PA/OH/NY

Mon, 23 Jan 2023 19:13:51 +0000

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I’m in the Cincinnati area south of the river. I’d love to meet up with anyone else local, even if it’s an hour or two away. HMU!

Seth Moore posted an update in the group Psychedelic Experiences and Integration: This is something I'm extremely intrigued about trying, […]

Mon, 23 Jan 2023 19:12:02 +0000

This is something I’m extremely intrigued about trying, but I’m also very risk-averse and am terrified of all the ways it could go wrong. Oh, and it’s illegal where I live. How do I get started?

Seth Moore posted an update in the group Deconstructing Alone: I've been deconstructing for a few years now. […]

Mon, 23 Jan 2023 19:08:24 +0000

I’ve been deconstructing for a few years now. Officially atheist for about the last four years. It’s been hard to find any sort of community around me. The local Freethinkers group doesn’t have any members my age. I don’t have any family local to me (probably a good thing because they’re all still Christians), and the one fellow atheist I…

Ruby Neumann posted an update in the group Alberta, Canada: As a long time resident of Alberta... both from Calgary […]

Sun, 22 Jan 2023 20:15:07 +0000

As a long time resident of Alberta… both from Calgary and Edmonton areas… I still feel like I live in a remote area of the world when it comes to communities like this. I like online communities that help bridge the entire globe, but there has to be something valuable to finding people that are in your neighbourhood. I hope to meet some…

Ruby Neumann created the group Alberta, Canada

Sun, 22 Jan 2023 19:58:44 +0000

Ruby Neumann posted an update in the group Deconstructing Alone: I just joined today. I have been very grateful for […]

Sun, 22 Jan 2023 18:21:36 +0000

I just joined today. I have been very grateful for online opportunities to process this journey of deconstruction and deconversion. It’s a big world, and it seems rare for most to find people in their in person community to walk with them on this journey in person. I am grateful for living in a century that doesn’t have me burned at the…

Ruby Neumann posted an update in the group Agnostics/atheists: Hello... greetings from Alberta Canada. I just […]

Sun, 22 Jan 2023 18:06:59 +0000

Hello… greetings from Alberta Canada. I just joined today. Hoping for connection and conversation with people from across the globe walking through life the best they know how.

It’s a beautiful day today where I live. That is something to be grateful for today!

Cheers Ruby

Ruby Neumann posted an update in the group Canada: Hello Fellow Canucks! Just joined today. I am […]

Sun, 22 Jan 2023 18:02:43 +0000

Hello Fellow Canucks! Just joined today. I am from Alberta… close to Edmonton. Greetings!!!

Matthew Taylor replied to the discussion Introduce Yourself in the forum UK

Sun, 22 Jan 2023 12:32:45 +0000

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He all,

I’m Matthew, I grew up in the mission field in Zambia in the 70s and 80s. Move back to the UK at 18, married, lived a christian life, did youth work etc…

then I deconstructed and have been out for over ten years. I now co host the Still Unbelievable! podcast.