Deconstruction is the process of questioning one’s core foundational beliefs and finding that, since they don’t hold to be true, they need to be removed.
What is a foundational truth for one person might be an insignificant point for another. Because of this one person’s harrowing complex deconstruction of their faith might be another person’s bump in the road.
Generally speaking most who deconstruct at a significant level will experience a lot of accompanying pain and suffering. They go through grief as they experience the loss of all sorts of things, ranging from their God, faith, family, friends, relationships and even their own identity. Obviously everyone handles these things differently but there are common themes throughout.
It’s not our place to say if someone is deconstructing or not. Just as we wouldn’t presume to say if someone hurt themselves if it was painful. It’s not our body or our experience. What’s painful for us might not be for another person or visa versa.